Let’s do the deeper work.

Welcome to Cactus Rose Counseling, my name is Hailey

I specialize primarily in trauma and all its impacts, including anxiety, dissociation, feeling stuck in survival mode, emotional flashbacks, struggling in relationships, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. The type of work I love most involves unraveling the ways that our past affects the present, and helping people rediscover their sense of authenticity.  I love helping my clients heal defense mechanisms that used to keep them safe but, now keep them disconnected from life.

Whether your goal is to confront things you've buried, change how you show up in your relationships, become more resilient to life changes, or set aside survival mechanisms that no longer serve you, I’m here to help you do the deeper work . We’ll go beyond talk therapy, using evidence-based tools to help you truly process and move forward.

Like its namesake, Cactus Rose Counseling is based on my belief that we are resilient, and that more than just surviving trauma, we can move through and beyond trauma to thriving.

What can I help you with?

  • Trauma

    Trauma is when what happened to you in the past is still present. When you’re tired of ‘pushing it down’, I’ll help you find safety in your body so you can face what happened and move forward. We will always move at your pace, use evidence-based tools, and ensure sure you feel safe. Learn more here.

  • C-PTSD

    Complex PTSD is wounding that happens over time, and often within relationships. This can impact one’s sense of selfhood and ability to feel safe in relationships. Together we can heal attachment wounds that affect your ability to be intimate, trusting, or feel whole. Learn more about trauma here.

  • Anxiety

    When anxiety is running the show, we can be controlling and rigid, or just shut down. I’ll help you explore your anxiety by taking inventory of your automatic thoughts, daily habits, patterns of movement, nutrition, and sleep. We’ll also explore mindful ways to thrive, even when anxiety remains present.

  • Attachment

    When we put up walls, or to cling tightly to love, it is usually because we are falling back on old patterns and fears that were developed earlier in life. Whether you tend towards anxious, avoidant, or a mix of both, I’ll help you find ways to feel safe in relationship.

  • Nervous System Healing

    Our nervous systems aren’t designed for the modern world. This means most of our nervous systems are chronically overwhelmed, especially if you’ve experienced trauma. I’ll help you understand and map your unique states, and strengthen your calm response.

  • Life Transitions

    Life is ever-changing, and we are built to change with it. But when those changes are big or sudden, it can make all the difference to have some support and skills. Whether its the death of a loved one, coming out, a divorce, or a transition of faith, I’ll create a neutral space for you to explore inner conflicts and help you navigate the shift, guided by your values.

  • Perfectionism

    People-pleasing, masking, earning your worth, and fear of failure are simply exhausting. They may have kept you safe in the past, but aren’t helping you now. Together, we can explore what perfectionism protected you from and address the root cause, so you can reconnect to worth beyond achievement.

Currently accepting telehealth clients in Utah!

Accepting Arizona telehealth clients for wait-list (June 2025).

Learn about the tools I use:

  • EMDR (or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) uses eye movements and body awareness to help you reprocess distressing memories. It targets thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and body sensations to address each of the impacts of the memories. It is well-researched and an extremely effective tool for all types of trauma.

  • IFS (Internal Family Systems) is built on the idea that we all have different internal ‘parts’. Some parts hold pain from the past, and other parts keep you from feeling it. In IFS, we work with the protective parts to free them from their ‘job’, and heal the rejected parts that hold pain. In doing so, you are able to access the deeper sense of security and wisdom that lies beneath all these parts, and build a secure attachment with yourself.

  • Polyvagal therapy is the science of regulating our nervous systems, and understanding our defense states, including fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and collapse. I’ll give you tools to reprogram your nervous system, and teach you how to shift back to calm.

  • Elements of mindfulness, meditation, and somatic (or body) awareness are woven throughout my approach to help my clients reconnect to a deeper sense of presence beneath their survival mechanisms. Through practicing mindful awareness, we become more intentional, awake, brave, compassionate, and resilient to the pain that comes with being human.

  • I always work from a holistic perspective that recognizes that the brain and body are completely intertwined. In order to help clients achieve their goals, I help them assess how all aspects of their life impact their mental health.

Let’s work together.

Book a free 15-minute consult, or schedule your first session!